Dating a colleague first date
I enjoy working with you, so why complicate things? On paper they read a bit like Noel Coward out-takes).
And at all costs avoid the following: "That's okay, no hard feelings - as I hope you won't have when I tell you your pay rise has just been cancelled." Or: "So Quentin in accounts was right after all, you aren't lesbian/gay".
IT HAS been estimated that up to half of us meet our future partners through or at work, which makes it a significant venue for budding romance.
There are obvious plus points to meeting your partner at work: 1.
Control those passions There is a strange mental phenomenon that can overpower even the most serious-minded and conscientious employee when they embark on an affair with a colleague, and that is that they suffer a barely controllable urge to get down to having sex at work. Desktops inspire the ultimate fantasy as business accoutrements are knocked to the floor with one fell swoop of a worsted-clad arm (difficult with all the PC equipment, I know - all those leads and plugs and mouse-mats), buns are unpinned, spectacles torn off, plus all that ice-cold laminated chipboard stretching out beneath you with just the odd unseen paperclip or stapler to mar the magic of the moment.
Stationery cupboards: Or any cupboards come to that - and the more cramped the better.
Prior to making a play for a colleague, work out the following - however hard it is to be coldly rational under the circumstances: 1. Being positive: Surely the best move if you fancy a colleague is to ask them out on a good, old-fashioned date.
Do what you want on the social scene, but in business do not be too eager.If you are asked out by a co-worker and turn them down, keep that quiet too.Don't boast about your pulling power and don't mock the afflicted. Stress: The most effective way of stopping all those hormones and testosterone in their tracks. Good stress-surfing brings about the old adrenalin rush that can engender frisky behaviour, but negative stress can make you too tired and anxious even to notice the sex of the person working next to you, let alone fancy them.Be polite, open, honest, and assertive, not furtive. And never be lewd (good, old-fashioned word) or make a pass.How about: "Would you like to come out for a meal with me tomorrow night?